i ahd a dream dat iwas pregnant wen i had mii baby it was red an could fit in my palm then some lady flesthed it down the toilet wat does dat mean
I had a dream dat i was pregnant?
See "baby" in this dream dictionary. Maybe some of this would relate to you? http://dreammoods.com/cgibin/searchcsv.p...
Reply:could be you will be found or have a baby , also mught ne your near family will have a baby
Reply:you think about having a baby and getting pregnant
that is why you see it in your dream
stop thinking about it and go to bed relax
good luck
hopefully you will get pregnant if you are ttc
Reply:it means you probably want to be...and its on your mind alot...that's what i think
Reply:no-one is psychic on here...lol
but it sounds like u predicted a (miscarriage) I'm Guessing
maybe someone u know
Reply:Dream is pyschology. I read a lot of dream meaning. Maybe you need to try harder in trying to conceive because your effort is consider little, or maybe its nothing to do with baby or pregnancy. You might have little ideas or opinions that is not good enough and people don't like it and throw it. LOL. This is funny. Seriously, i have no idea.
Reply:i use to dream alot of me having a baby, but most people say only reasons y u dream it cus you went to bed with it on your mind, I no how you feel but just please keep the faith, baby dust to you
Reply:That you need to avoid trying to conceive until you're a lot more educated.
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Saturday, November 19, 2011
Working in Corporate Office, office politics and not clicking with anyone?
I have a few problems with my work at the moment. I work in a corporate office in the city centre and have worked here for the past 6 months. I am not really clicking with anyone in my department (immediate crew of 7) but also find it hard to initiate conversations with other staff around the building. (260 staff) I work with one lady who talks harshly about people to me but then I get fearful she is doing the same about me. I've approached her about this and she has just palmed off my queries and left it at that. I also feel she talks to the boss about things she might over hear I'm doing in my personal life or when I talk on my mobile because he knows things I don't tell him. I'm wondering if there's any websites or books on office politics because I really like my job but I'm pretty naive when it comes to all this manipulation and backstabbing. I'm 24 years old and am just getting my career started so I refuse to leave this company. It's my dream job that I've fought hard for.....
Working in Corporate Office, office politics and not clicking with anyone?
You are probably right about the woman talking about you behind your back. Stay off of your mobile phone during business hours, so she won't be able to pick up any information. This type of behavior is pretty standard in most offices, as everyone is trying to out maneuver the rest to get ahead.
Reply:This is more common than you think.
Look for the book called "Dinosaur Brains"
How to Shine at Work - Linda R. Dominguez
BODY LANGUAGE IN THE WORKPLACE - Julius Fast
Face It Recognizing and Conquering The Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict At Work - AMACOM
You Want Me to Work with Who Eleven Keys to a Stress-Free, Satisfying, and Successful Work Life No Matter Who You Work With - Julie Jansen
Most were available in Torrents but I recommend BUYING THEM.
These have been instrumental in helping me through some nasty crud at my workplace.
Very Catty where I work and I needed and edge.
Trust me, these books will open a whole new world for you and you will shine at work. Everyone will want to work with you cause you are so cool to work with.
It's all about communication.
Working in Corporate Office, office politics and not clicking with anyone?
You are probably right about the woman talking about you behind your back. Stay off of your mobile phone during business hours, so she won't be able to pick up any information. This type of behavior is pretty standard in most offices, as everyone is trying to out maneuver the rest to get ahead.
Reply:This is more common than you think.
Look for the book called "Dinosaur Brains"
How to Shine at Work - Linda R. Dominguez
BODY LANGUAGE IN THE WORKPLACE - Julius Fast
Face It Recognizing and Conquering The Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict At Work - AMACOM
You Want Me to Work with Who Eleven Keys to a Stress-Free, Satisfying, and Successful Work Life No Matter Who You Work With - Julie Jansen
Most were available in Torrents but I recommend BUYING THEM.
These have been instrumental in helping me through some nasty crud at my workplace.
Very Catty where I work and I needed and edge.
Trust me, these books will open a whole new world for you and you will shine at work. Everyone will want to work with you cause you are so cool to work with.
It's all about communication.
Do i have like, a bad life ahead of me?
my dad had a deram that someone was came to take me away, and my mom and everyone else i nthe family let them take me, my dad was upset with them and did all he can to get me back and he finally did. his interpretation of the dream was that i was dying, and my family watched me, and when the time came for me to go, they let me, but my dad fought for me to come back to life...
this lady read my palm and said when i turn 18, (in 5 months) i must get blessed because if i don't, i can be in danger...
i have a fair case of paranoia, and everyday i can't help but think i won't be able to live to see age 25...i can't stop thinkign about it..can someone help me out?
Do i have like, a bad life ahead of me?
You should trust in god. Don't believe silly dreams or hocus pocus., and don't tell me that god isn't real cause if you believe in that crap then you need to believe that god is real and in control of your life.
I wish you luck
Reply:Put your faith in the Lord instead of fortune tellers and dreams.
Proverbs 3:5,6 says:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
Also look up these Bible verses: Romans 10:13; Romans 5:8; Romans 3:23; John 3:16; Philippians 4:6,7.
Reply:Since you are turning 18 shortly, your Dad may be feeling that he is at risk of loosing you. Death can take many forms; social death, emotional death, etc., in addition to physical Death.
It is not uncommon to feel that a relationship is in danger of dying, including a relationship between daughter and Dad. Many Dads feel that as a daughter grows, someone else is likely to come into their life and take his place, leaving him with only memories. It's likely that your Dad's dream is a poetic representation of his fears.
As far as your own fears of Death go, not expecting to live to see 25 can also be an internal fear that you, as you are now, will not survive. Meaning that when you are 25 I suspect you will be a significantly different person from what you are now, so in a sense the person that are now will not survive to see 25.
Make sense?
this lady read my palm and said when i turn 18, (in 5 months) i must get blessed because if i don't, i can be in danger...
i have a fair case of paranoia, and everyday i can't help but think i won't be able to live to see age 25...i can't stop thinkign about it..can someone help me out?
Do i have like, a bad life ahead of me?
You should trust in god. Don't believe silly dreams or hocus pocus., and don't tell me that god isn't real cause if you believe in that crap then you need to believe that god is real and in control of your life.
I wish you luck
Reply:Put your faith in the Lord instead of fortune tellers and dreams.
Proverbs 3:5,6 says:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
Also look up these Bible verses: Romans 10:13; Romans 5:8; Romans 3:23; John 3:16; Philippians 4:6,7.
Reply:Since you are turning 18 shortly, your Dad may be feeling that he is at risk of loosing you. Death can take many forms; social death, emotional death, etc., in addition to physical Death.
It is not uncommon to feel that a relationship is in danger of dying, including a relationship between daughter and Dad. Many Dads feel that as a daughter grows, someone else is likely to come into their life and take his place, leaving him with only memories. It's likely that your Dad's dream is a poetic representation of his fears.
As far as your own fears of Death go, not expecting to live to see 25 can also be an internal fear that you, as you are now, will not survive. Meaning that when you are 25 I suspect you will be a significantly different person from what you are now, so in a sense the person that are now will not survive to see 25.
Make sense?
EVERYONE PLEASE ANSWER Egypt?What do you think?
1.I want to verify this address Building 1,Street No.55,Palm Beach,Agami,Alexandria,Egypt.How do i do it?
2.Is it safe to stay in rented apartment and
3.Im Indian
4.Egypt tourism lady here told me i should rent hotel get them to give booking to airport have copy of booking when i arrive so i can get visa on arrival is it so or i can just get visa on arrival?
EVERYONE PLEASE ANSWER Egypt?What do you think?
1. Agami-Alexandria .. it's cool
2. It's safe to stay in rented apartment as long as you are not in the dessert alone
4.Yes it's better to have the hotel or travel agency confirmation and 2 way ticket to take the visa, but may be you can also take it without that.
Reply:great place
have return ticket
visa OK
Reply:right adress
good place
safe
I think you should get an invitation
2.Is it safe to stay in rented apartment and
3.Im Indian
4.Egypt tourism lady here told me i should rent hotel get them to give booking to airport have copy of booking when i arrive so i can get visa on arrival is it so or i can just get visa on arrival?
EVERYONE PLEASE ANSWER Egypt?What do you think?
1. Agami-Alexandria .. it's cool
2. It's safe to stay in rented apartment as long as you are not in the dessert alone
4.Yes it's better to have the hotel or travel agency confirmation and 2 way ticket to take the visa, but may be you can also take it without that.
Reply:great place
have return ticket
visa OK
Reply:right adress
good place
safe
I think you should get an invitation
Is it some sort of a crap or what?
way back college days,my friends and i went to a fortune teller.it wasnt a plan but we decided to go during our class break.i was the last one on the list.during my turn, the old lady check my palm,looking on it seriously.i guess it took her 5 min.to release my hand.then do some cards stuff.i was actually waiting for what she's goin to tell me.seems that she's reading the cards.she said that my dad really misses me that time(i wasnt w/ my dad before),that couples will help me travel abroad someday,and the last thing she said,i should be careful in choosing men.she actually told me that most of the guys im going to meet was already committed/married.i got to remember all the guys i met before wasnt single,but of course i dont know it,they wont say it either.some of them were married and others got gf's already.i just dont wanna believe in all of these!
Is it some sort of a crap or what?
Fortune Tellers - What load of marlarkey, Garbage.
.
If I read / told you your fortune, u be rich - millionaire at 18 married with 4 kids - would u belive me, - """ HELL NO """
.
Now in reallity would you belive me if I said to you, that some day you will me someone that you really like and go from there.
.
An old saying
THERE IS SOME-ONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYBODY
.
Best of luck
.
Reply:I don't know how much information she got about you so I don't know if she was really psychic but what she said was good advice anyway.
Gta vice city mp question
Is it some sort of a crap or what?
Fortune Tellers - What load of marlarkey, Garbage.
.
If I read / told you your fortune, u be rich - millionaire at 18 married with 4 kids - would u belive me, - """ HELL NO """
.
Now in reallity would you belive me if I said to you, that some day you will me someone that you really like and go from there.
.
An old saying
THERE IS SOME-ONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYBODY
.
Best of luck
.
Reply:I don't know how much information she got about you so I don't know if she was really psychic but what she said was good advice anyway.
Gta vice city mp question
Doing someone elses work and they get the credit?
Im 21 work for a reasonable plumbing company that i'd like to be with for a long time. I am doing really well and im chasing marketing manager's position as im being trainied in that area and hopefully in the end general manager but the lady who is currently marketing mngr is palming all her work load to me i am doing it all and she is getting credit for it im doing it with smiles because i dont want my Boss to think i dont want to work for them but i just want to tell him that im doing the marketing work and not the actual marketing lady. To say it straight out i want the marketing position but i dont want to make it look to my boss im winging about the current marketing lady and that i do all her work. my other collegues know that im doing all her work but its difficult to approach the boss? does this make sense
ANY IDEAS OR HELP PLEASE
Doing someone elses work and they get the credit?
You have an obligation to YOURSELF to take credit for your own work. If you're not speaking up, shame on you. The next time she is offered praise in your company, you'd do best to pipe up and say "Thanks, I worked really hard on that."
Reply:yah you have to say something but you cant do it when youre mad. if you dont, then you're going to look like they dont need you and you may lose your job. but you dont want them to think youre throwing the other gal under the bus.
Reply:Unfortunately I know this situation all too well. My boss passes things off onto me because he knows that I can handle them, but some of these things I am NOT supposed to see. He insists that I remain quiet on every little thing that I do. What really sucks is that I have two co workers and they can do what they want ,how they want, and when they want. Then I am told to clean up their crap at the end. Since I have the lowest seniority in this department, I am the only one who has to abide by his rules. One of the people has been there for 14 years and if she doesn't want to do something; it ain't getting done.
I have resolved myself to just looking at this position as stepping stone. I know that things will not change and no one sees what I can do, since I have everybody taking the credit for the work. It is a lose -lose situation. I am resolved to finding something else.
My suggestion to you is to sit back and decide do you want to live in someones shadow, or do you want to do something different and more challenging? Once you answer that then you will know how to move forward.
This is not to say that every little thing you do needs acknowledgment, but something at some point in time would be good. You need to find a position with this balance, or figure out how to achieve this at your current place of employment.
Good Luck.
Reply:You could approach your boss with a collegue to back you up.
Or maybe your collegues could bring it up with your boss.
Of course, you could always ask your boss to talk to the marketing lady about what's in the marketing work...if she doesn't know the details, he'll know that she didn't do it herself.
ANY IDEAS OR HELP PLEASE
Doing someone elses work and they get the credit?
You have an obligation to YOURSELF to take credit for your own work. If you're not speaking up, shame on you. The next time she is offered praise in your company, you'd do best to pipe up and say "Thanks, I worked really hard on that."
Reply:yah you have to say something but you cant do it when youre mad. if you dont, then you're going to look like they dont need you and you may lose your job. but you dont want them to think youre throwing the other gal under the bus.
Reply:Unfortunately I know this situation all too well. My boss passes things off onto me because he knows that I can handle them, but some of these things I am NOT supposed to see. He insists that I remain quiet on every little thing that I do. What really sucks is that I have two co workers and they can do what they want ,how they want, and when they want. Then I am told to clean up their crap at the end. Since I have the lowest seniority in this department, I am the only one who has to abide by his rules. One of the people has been there for 14 years and if she doesn't want to do something; it ain't getting done.
I have resolved myself to just looking at this position as stepping stone. I know that things will not change and no one sees what I can do, since I have everybody taking the credit for the work. It is a lose -lose situation. I am resolved to finding something else.
My suggestion to you is to sit back and decide do you want to live in someones shadow, or do you want to do something different and more challenging? Once you answer that then you will know how to move forward.
This is not to say that every little thing you do needs acknowledgment, but something at some point in time would be good. You need to find a position with this balance, or figure out how to achieve this at your current place of employment.
Good Luck.
Reply:You could approach your boss with a collegue to back you up.
Or maybe your collegues could bring it up with your boss.
Of course, you could always ask your boss to talk to the marketing lady about what's in the marketing work...if she doesn't know the details, he'll know that she didn't do it herself.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Just realized us men cant win for losing...?
Being married sounds good and all but the lust is like that "new car smell", it doesnt last long. The wife runs a monopoly on the (you know) and you better not stray or she'll have your (you know) in court and try to get all she can. Its not my fault I am a man with a high sex drive and I dont ask for much. She wants to make a schedule for sex. I want to make spontaneous sex. She wants to watch tv in the night. I want to see her naked in the night because I cant watch no other "real life girl in person" at night. All the ladies on my job want to take a ride in "my car" while my wife prefers to walk? I dont get it. My (you know) is gonna fall of due to lack of in-activity? Too old for Rosie Palms!
Just realized us men cant win for losing...?
Too old for Rosie? What, you've got arthritis or something? Jeez, man, that's like a little black dress - it'll never go out of style!
As to your wife.... you don't ask for "much" but you don't define what "much" is. I'd say if she's not giving it up at least 2x monthly, she has a problem (like, a medical problem, and she should see a doctor). If it's between 2-10x monthly, and it's just not enough for you, I'd say there's a disconnect between your sex drives; this can be handled by a little generosity on her part ("yes" when she'd really rather say "no," maybe oral when she's really not feeling the vibe) and a little self-gratification on your part....and keeping things interesting never hurts either. If it's more than 10x monthly, I'd say you just need to quit whining and learn to take matters into your own hands, so to speak. ;D
Reply:lol...lol.... well...you know....You don't need those "Rosie " palms...... Get a truck and then you won' be tempted to take girls in your car... The seats r smaller and you can't move around well.... ha ha!!.... you know.... u really r right about the spontaneous thing ...it is better... U need to work on this....you know.... ha ha ...
Reply:Oh no! You married an accountant, didn't you? Bad move, dude.... WAY bad move. Sex is one of those things you guys should have agreed on before you got married; otherwise you'll experience problems in the long run, as you are finding out.
Maybe you two can work out a compromise, like TiVo if it's her favorite program, and a nice risqué movie to help put her in the mood if she's still hesitant and wants the TV on.
Of course, it goes without saying.... but are there any *other* problems in the relationship that could be precipitating this? Have you made sure she feels special, emotionally fulfilled, and (really important) gets her rocks off during sex as well? Did you know her sex drive was this low BEFORE you got married? Or is it a recent development?
Hate to say it, but your situation is one of the primary reasons I advocate a "try before you buy" approach to "your car" (as you aptly put it) instead of saving it until marriage. Let this serve as fair warning about the dangers of having your church group plan your sex life for you! ;-)
Reply:just realizing it? yes, we make all the rules. and if you want, you know, you better be good at fixing what you want so you get more, you know.
Reply:pal you got that right in my opion?
Reply:Have you tried to tell your wife this. I mean have you just told her the way you did here? Try it. She needs to hear you tell her how much you love her and want to be with her in ALL ways. Tell her how you would love to see her in some nice lingerie, maybe tell her your favorite color and ask her would see be willing to wear some. Tell her a schedule for intimate time with her isn't going to work for you . Tell her how that makes you feel. Like she thinks she's too busy for you or something. And tell her if you have to make an appointment with her to share your most intimate time and thoughts then maybe you should look for it somewhere else. Let her see your not kidding either. Wives are suppose to subject to their husband not make them make an appointment. Those people are called Hookers. And your not married to a Hooker, unless that's what she wants to start acting like and then ask her how much will it cost you. If she gets mad then good now you can tell her this is why you won't go on a schedule to be with her and something else will have to be done.
Reply:What SOME of you men don't realize is that foreplay for women starts with non-sexual things. Try telling her how pretty she is, help with the kids, approach her in a romantic NON-SEXUAL way. If that does not work then let some of the ladies at your job ride in " your car."
Reply:I feel so sorry for you. I'm sure YOU fufill HER in every way possible, right?
Marriage is about more than your sex drive, so the victim act is wasted on me. If it bothers you though, why don't you try using that energy to talk to your wife about it, instead of coming up with bizarra similes ("ride in your car" - wtf)?
Reply:If you're married, let's talk like big boys and girls, okay? "(you know)"'s are actually called words like penis and sex.
First, comparing your wife to the women you work with is bad on SO many levels. The obvious (continuing to think about all the girls wanting sex while you aren't getting any from your wife) can cause you to consider cheating. The reality of believing the other women want sex and your sex life would be better with THEM leaves one very important factor out: it would probably change, if it weren't taboo, and you were in a long-term monogamous relationship. The secrecy, the clandestine nature of an extramarital fling is the largest factor in its appeal. If those women lived with you day in and day out, washing your underwear and socks, paying bills, trading off diaper duty, etc., the majority of the appeal would go flying out the window.
I have to ask, how much time and effort do you put into trying to fulfill HER needs, as well? She has some, and they may not be sexual, so you may not be aware of them. One of my main needs that can help me want sex with my husband at night is for him to actually not sit there and make me do all the childcare, all the laundry, all the cooking, all the dishes, etc. By the end of the night, I'm exhausted, and he's horny, wanting to have sex, and I'm thinking, "It's partly YOUR fault I'm this tired!!!"
Also, I've heard from him, at times when we go a long dry spell, that I haven't been fulfilling his needs in however long. In the past year and a half, almost EVERY time I've actually asked him "Hey, do you mind if we just cuddle?" (and I'm serious, it's happened three or four times) he apparently hears "You're not getting sex, so roll over and go to sleep." It's not a consolation prize, it's me actually saying "I need non-sexual physical contact." and him saying "No thanks." It may have been two weeks since we've had sex, but it's been nearly two years since he's actually bothered himself with fulfilling that need for me. He's definately got the better deal.
Considering the fact that most women do the majority of the housework, and also work outside the home, if you want spontaneous sex, you might want to work up to it, taking some of the work off her, so she can get her mind and body ready for it. Spontaneously deciding to have sex after she's worked her butt off all day and all evening while you watched wrestling is not going to end well.
Make up a semi-schedule. Give her a little advanced notice. It takes more for a lot of women to get in the mood, so if you actually work that up in a caring way ("Hey baby let's get it on" does NOT count as a sensitive or caring way to give her notice), you could find her more willing to relax and have sex. Similarly, if you know there is a time period where you will NOT be successful in getting ehr to have sex, because it will just annoy the heck out of her (for me, it's bedtime or when I FINALLY get to sleep -- I work hard, and if he's going to wait until I finally get done with everything and eventually fall asleep, I do NOT appreciate him waking me up for sex), avoid trying to get it then
Reply:How old are you? God you are so confused and have no idea how to be a married person. Stop winging and work on your marriage because you reap what you sow.
Reply:well aren't we horny, look marriage is alot more than how many time you can get it on with your wife, you married her because of something you liked about her, and now your figuring out it was just sex, you need to work on everything else in your marriage if your not willing to give it up because of being afraid of loosing your materialistic junk, love your wife,because she married a sap like you,be grateful
Reply:do you thinkyou make her feel sexy? if so all i can say is set the mood.maybe if you start it she will follow your lead.
Just realized us men cant win for losing...?
Too old for Rosie? What, you've got arthritis or something? Jeez, man, that's like a little black dress - it'll never go out of style!
As to your wife.... you don't ask for "much" but you don't define what "much" is. I'd say if she's not giving it up at least 2x monthly, she has a problem (like, a medical problem, and she should see a doctor). If it's between 2-10x monthly, and it's just not enough for you, I'd say there's a disconnect between your sex drives; this can be handled by a little generosity on her part ("yes" when she'd really rather say "no," maybe oral when she's really not feeling the vibe) and a little self-gratification on your part....and keeping things interesting never hurts either. If it's more than 10x monthly, I'd say you just need to quit whining and learn to take matters into your own hands, so to speak. ;D
Reply:lol...lol.... well...you know....You don't need those "Rosie " palms...... Get a truck and then you won' be tempted to take girls in your car... The seats r smaller and you can't move around well.... ha ha!!.... you know.... u really r right about the spontaneous thing ...it is better... U need to work on this....you know.... ha ha ...
Reply:Oh no! You married an accountant, didn't you? Bad move, dude.... WAY bad move. Sex is one of those things you guys should have agreed on before you got married; otherwise you'll experience problems in the long run, as you are finding out.
Maybe you two can work out a compromise, like TiVo if it's her favorite program, and a nice risqué movie to help put her in the mood if she's still hesitant and wants the TV on.
Of course, it goes without saying.... but are there any *other* problems in the relationship that could be precipitating this? Have you made sure she feels special, emotionally fulfilled, and (really important) gets her rocks off during sex as well? Did you know her sex drive was this low BEFORE you got married? Or is it a recent development?
Hate to say it, but your situation is one of the primary reasons I advocate a "try before you buy" approach to "your car" (as you aptly put it) instead of saving it until marriage. Let this serve as fair warning about the dangers of having your church group plan your sex life for you! ;-)
Reply:just realizing it? yes, we make all the rules. and if you want, you know, you better be good at fixing what you want so you get more, you know.
Reply:pal you got that right in my opion?
Reply:Have you tried to tell your wife this. I mean have you just told her the way you did here? Try it. She needs to hear you tell her how much you love her and want to be with her in ALL ways. Tell her how you would love to see her in some nice lingerie, maybe tell her your favorite color and ask her would see be willing to wear some. Tell her a schedule for intimate time with her isn't going to work for you . Tell her how that makes you feel. Like she thinks she's too busy for you or something. And tell her if you have to make an appointment with her to share your most intimate time and thoughts then maybe you should look for it somewhere else. Let her see your not kidding either. Wives are suppose to subject to their husband not make them make an appointment. Those people are called Hookers. And your not married to a Hooker, unless that's what she wants to start acting like and then ask her how much will it cost you. If she gets mad then good now you can tell her this is why you won't go on a schedule to be with her and something else will have to be done.
Reply:What SOME of you men don't realize is that foreplay for women starts with non-sexual things. Try telling her how pretty she is, help with the kids, approach her in a romantic NON-SEXUAL way. If that does not work then let some of the ladies at your job ride in " your car."
Reply:I feel so sorry for you. I'm sure YOU fufill HER in every way possible, right?
Marriage is about more than your sex drive, so the victim act is wasted on me. If it bothers you though, why don't you try using that energy to talk to your wife about it, instead of coming up with bizarra similes ("ride in your car" - wtf)?
Reply:If you're married, let's talk like big boys and girls, okay? "(you know)"'s are actually called words like penis and sex.
First, comparing your wife to the women you work with is bad on SO many levels. The obvious (continuing to think about all the girls wanting sex while you aren't getting any from your wife) can cause you to consider cheating. The reality of believing the other women want sex and your sex life would be better with THEM leaves one very important factor out: it would probably change, if it weren't taboo, and you were in a long-term monogamous relationship. The secrecy, the clandestine nature of an extramarital fling is the largest factor in its appeal. If those women lived with you day in and day out, washing your underwear and socks, paying bills, trading off diaper duty, etc., the majority of the appeal would go flying out the window.
I have to ask, how much time and effort do you put into trying to fulfill HER needs, as well? She has some, and they may not be sexual, so you may not be aware of them. One of my main needs that can help me want sex with my husband at night is for him to actually not sit there and make me do all the childcare, all the laundry, all the cooking, all the dishes, etc. By the end of the night, I'm exhausted, and he's horny, wanting to have sex, and I'm thinking, "It's partly YOUR fault I'm this tired!!!"
Also, I've heard from him, at times when we go a long dry spell, that I haven't been fulfilling his needs in however long. In the past year and a half, almost EVERY time I've actually asked him "Hey, do you mind if we just cuddle?" (and I'm serious, it's happened three or four times) he apparently hears "You're not getting sex, so roll over and go to sleep." It's not a consolation prize, it's me actually saying "I need non-sexual physical contact." and him saying "No thanks." It may have been two weeks since we've had sex, but it's been nearly two years since he's actually bothered himself with fulfilling that need for me. He's definately got the better deal.
Considering the fact that most women do the majority of the housework, and also work outside the home, if you want spontaneous sex, you might want to work up to it, taking some of the work off her, so she can get her mind and body ready for it. Spontaneously deciding to have sex after she's worked her butt off all day and all evening while you watched wrestling is not going to end well.
Make up a semi-schedule. Give her a little advanced notice. It takes more for a lot of women to get in the mood, so if you actually work that up in a caring way ("Hey baby let's get it on" does NOT count as a sensitive or caring way to give her notice), you could find her more willing to relax and have sex. Similarly, if you know there is a time period where you will NOT be successful in getting ehr to have sex, because it will just annoy the heck out of her (for me, it's bedtime or when I FINALLY get to sleep -- I work hard, and if he's going to wait until I finally get done with everything and eventually fall asleep, I do NOT appreciate him waking me up for sex), avoid trying to get it then
Reply:How old are you? God you are so confused and have no idea how to be a married person. Stop winging and work on your marriage because you reap what you sow.
Reply:well aren't we horny, look marriage is alot more than how many time you can get it on with your wife, you married her because of something you liked about her, and now your figuring out it was just sex, you need to work on everything else in your marriage if your not willing to give it up because of being afraid of loosing your materialistic junk, love your wife,because she married a sap like you,be grateful
Reply:do you thinkyou make her feel sexy? if so all i can say is set the mood.maybe if you start it she will follow your lead.
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